Grammar. It seems so easy to follow the rules we learned when we were children. For some, I think it’s not about forgetting proper grammar rules, but rather elevating oneself above others in an act of selfishness.

Perhaps I just confused you, but let me explain.

I have this growing theory that when folks say “Me and so-and-so” or “Please pray for me and this person/ group,” we’re giving into the idea that we are more important than the other. Conceited nature is winning.

Social media is making us hungry for attention, pumping our egos with likes, comments, favorites and RTs. We desire gratification. We secretly hope that others might for one second be jealous of what we’re doing, have done or will do.

We all need to get over ourselves. We all need to find some humility. And definitely need to pray the Litany of Humility daily.

I remember when the WWJD bracelets were really popular. Alongside those, I had friend who wore one with FAMILY emblazoned on it.


It is time to bring this concept back — especially in social media. Forgetting about ourselves. Dying to ourselves. Daily. Hourly. Whatever it takes to break us of the growing self-centered-ness our culture promotes.

Perhaps I get unjustly frustrated when I see folks say things like “Me and my friend hanging out” or “Going on retreat so will you pray for me and the group?” — why does the “me” have to go first? Shouldn’t we, as Christians, always put others before us even if it means in a flippantly written sentence? (Never mind that it breaks every grammar rule taught in grade school).

It frustrates me even more when I see youth ministers and Church leaders fall victim to this habit. Of all the folks in the world, these are the people that should, by virtue of what they preach and teach, be putting others first in every thought, word and action. Right?

But maybe I’m crazy.

I encourage each of us to reflect on why we put “I,” “me,” “myself” and other self-describing pronouns before others. I challenge you to break the habit and think about others before yourself … Or dare I say at all.